Have you ever dreamed up your "perfect love" and then fell in love with this made up person?

I just finished reading The Peony Pavilion in my Chinese Drama %26amp; Performing Arts class and in it the heroine who is pretty much secluded from the outside world, visits a beautiful garden, which awakens her passions and she has a dream about a "romantic tryst" with a man she has never met. She falls in love with him through that one dream and falls really sick and eventually dies. I won't ruin the ending, but it's a happy one. :)


I had a dream that I was having dinner with my family %26amp; current boyfriend %26amp; then I said to myself in the dream, "I should date Jose," who I had just met a few days before. I would have never thought of him that way but my dream helped me realize it. That's the closest I can get to the story. Anyone else?

Have you ever dreamed up your "perfect love" and then fell in love with this made up person?
Yes! What a great question! Mine was actually a character from a book, Jondolar. He and his brother put together was my dream man. I really did fall in love with him. I even dreamed about him. That's what I love about books, you can make them out to be whom ever you want them to be. I was in love with Simon Le Bon at the time too. I would like to know the the book that you are refering to. christancat2000@yahoo.com
Reply:I don't think that is an uncommon thing to do. I would think that many of us have an ideal mate, someone we would want to look for to be with forever. I think eventually people begin to become disenchanted with what their ideal mate should be abd then begin to settle. So, maybe we should be asking ourselves this: Why do people settle when they know who their ideal mate is?
Reply:i believe in reality not fantasy there is no point in loving a man that you can never have.
Reply:I definitely had this impossible standard in my mind for a man. Besides which i wanted to be crazy head over heels in love and wasn't going to be satisfied with much else. And like all good stories, just when i resigned myself to never finding such a dream man, I found him! So now i'm completely in love with the man of my dreams, i keep expecting to wake up!
Reply:I don't think it is wise to ever look for anyone just to "date" or even someone to have a “romantic tryst" with. You have to build some practicality into you search for, dreaming of, and "falling into" romantic love.





I think you should always, always, always, be looking for the man you can spend the rest of your life with, someone who you can connect with completely both intellectually and emotionally. AND TAKE GREAT TIME AND EFFORT IN THE SEARCH. Possibly the character in your story, or even Jose, contains qualities you are already subconsciously seeking but take great care.





It may sound selfish but ultimately you are looking for someone who will make you happy, help fulfill your dreams, and stay with you forever - someone who will support your talents, career, and passions to help you lead a complete healthy and wealthy adult life.





If you look for these qualities, even in someone that you may have a short term relationship with, you cannot go wrong. Any connection you make or time you spend with them will be worth while, and passionate! And any physical connection you make will be great mind blowing because of it all.
Reply:I have had crushes on movie stars character, but never a make believe person. It would be nice to have that perfect person in your life though.
Reply:It happens. When I was young, I had a male character I thought I loved. As I matured, I realized how poorly I'd designed him. He is still around as my muse, but less defined as a character. I've never put him into a book for publication.





Try reading "Privacy" by Gini Wilson. It's about an espionage writer with a wonderful hero in her series and a real life NSA agent assigned to investigate her--and he happens to look like her hero!
Reply:every hour of every day


how else do i get perfect man??
Reply:Isn't that what people do whenever they "fall in love" with a celebrity?





Usually, because most people don't actually KNOW celebrities, they craft up this make believe character for them, based on their music or their movie roles, or whatever. They turn this celeb into their "dream character" subconsciously.





..or at least, teenage girls tend to do that.
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